Tea is best served?
Looking around my house the last few months and decided I need to clean out all my “stuff”, thinking I might have a hoarder problem. If so, I will be classified as a memory hoarder as all the “stuff” is what was given to me over the years and I made a special space for all. Be it an ornament or a furniture piece or just stuff, I diligently held on to it.
Now as a young child, I can still remember, every time the “Dominee” came around.
We were instructed to be at our best behaviour. The fine porcelain tea cups were dug out of the
sideboard washed and inspected. Placed on a tray with clear instruction of which cup
should be placed where. so to force the “dominee” to take a certain cup, without him knowing that he actually had no choice. This cup would be the one with no stains, no chips and definitely,
the one reflecting its pattern the best.
I can remember making the tea and walked at a snail paste not to mess a drop in the saucer as that was a bigger taboo than offering a cup with a chip on the side. Must admit although I use a mug nowadays,
tea is still best served in a fine porcelain cup. I have a few fine china
(porcelain) tea sets, most bought long before I got married and stashed in my trousseau kist. As a fine china tea set was important – for when the “dominee” came to visit. I have a Royal albert set I inherited from my gran and this is now in a display cabinet, used once only, in about 22 years when I had a tea party with my daughters and granddaughters.
Sitting on my antique chairs I got from my dad, which by the way is also just for show. I looked at all this and wondered why it was so important, why do I hold on for dear life to these things and decided to close my eyes and just start packing. Took out the first cup and as I was about to place it in the newspaper I realised it had a chip, wondering where it came from? I took extra special care of them to ensure it would always remain the “dominee’s” cups all of them and not just one. This set was given by a friend and as I looked, I realised most of them had cracks and chips and then caught myself thinking – just as her life was, Full of cracks and as she tried to hold on to the cracked pieces they chipped.
Until she gave way.
Realising that we all represent a fine porcelain tea set. Some of us fortunate enough not to be cracked or chipped, but most of us is. If no cracks or chips is visible. Your pattern might be fading. Yet when I’m taken out of my “cupboard” I need to be a perfect teacup as the cracks and chips are not to be revealed. It’s expected to be perfect as imperfections will ensure a loss of friends. Making the world our “dominee”. If your cracks show, there will be someone, who comes along to ensure that the fine cracks are illuminated. Someone who will chip at your chips to ensure they become visible for the world to see,
Why should we be forced to hide our cracks and chips from the world, why should we be afraid for the “dominee” to see them, out of fear of what they might do. A perfect set is one with six cups, six saucers, a sugar bowl, a milk dispenser and a teapot. If one cup is broken is it still considered a tea set? My fine china set lost a few items over the years, most of my remaining cups have cracks and chips in it, at my age even the teapot is starting to show its cracks. I’ve never looked after my own fine china set the way I should have. Always thought it would remain a complete set. Yet here I am. Attempting to pack away the final pieces without damaging it. Wondering is it worth it?
Why would I hold on to memories and why should I, now. after all want to save it? It is obviously not a set anymore. My set gave me a few good memories, is this why I hold on? Hoping that those memories will be enough, to hold on, to try and replace some of the broken pieces? Or will I cope without. The piece that bugs me is the teapot. The beginning and the end of a perfect cup of tea, will the cracks remain or become worse. How long before the tea can not be held due to the cracks.
What to do? Do I hold on or do I pack away?
Tea is best served in fine china.
Feeding the duck’s 2018/10/21